Be Bold Bison
Many of life’s decisions are a result of passionate pursuits. For many people, like myself, being confident in making choices brings a sense of security in life. In college, there has been a constant battle to make up my mind. It is not a walk in the park to make decisions as I have recently discovered. As a result of facing indecision, it can become overwhelming to think there is absolutely no direction in life. It is human nature to be afraid of what is to come (believe me, I know the feeling), but I am here to offer a fresh perspective on why it is important to pursue and truly appreciate change.
First off, change promotes growth.
If someone remains stagnant in belief, or thought, that person will never be able to see life through a different lens. I can imagine it would be a bit boring as well if every passing moment was always the same. As young adults, the only way we can possibly become comfortable is by challenging ourselves and pushing ourselves outside of our own comfort. Pushing ourselves through what seems at the time an inability to perform well, is the only true way we can grow. Being open to the possibility of not being secure seems daunting. The idea of walking down a dark, winding road seems absolutely terrifying, but once through that road, we can see the intention behind the tedious walk.
Secondly, change leads to discovery.
I feel like many times as a society, we push people away from discovery. We encourage others to know who they want to be from the start and then wholeheartedly pursue what they want to be, which is not always a bad thing. However, sometimes passions change and the feeling of having to meet expectations can seem overbearing. It seems like there is a constant battle to please expectations from others while also trying to fulfill our own desires. It should not be overwhelming having a change of mind. Instead, as a society we should encourage others to challenge their opinions and aspirations and not give others a hard time for changing their mind.
Questions we should ask ourselves individually and on a continual basis should be, ‘Is this really what I love to do? Will I be content doing this for the rest of my life?’ And not ‘Will my parents be upset if I decide to opt out of this?’ It seems like it should be an obvious answer that each individual is capable of making his or her own decisions. However, how often do we as a society seek approval from others in order to define our worth and our actions? Our choices should always be a reflection of what we want for ourselves and not what others want for our lives. I have noticed quite often many of my friends have been discouraged by parents or loved ones from pursuing what they truly are passionate about, because their parents ultimately want to create their future for them. In the end, it is our own pursuits and our willingness to challenge those pursuits that will lead us to a fulfilled life.
Recently, I have noticed a lot of insecurity about my future. I thought I was confident in what I wanted to be when I grew up. However, God has definitely shown me His will for my life. Rather than asking God what He wanted for my life, I held so securely to what I aspired to do with my life. I have been pushed by Him lately to vocalize my opinion more whether it be through this blog or in group conversation. I have noticed myself more engaged and aware of the social and cultural indifferences in our society. Noticing these indifferences has led me to pursue a degree centered on people. I do not want to merely write about what is wrong in our society, but I want to offer advice and solutions to such problems. Ultimately, I realized it is perfectly okay to face indecision and I believe more people need to understand that it is fine to be insecure in what the future holds.
The most important thing in the decision making process is discovering what brings joy to my life, and only in time can God reveal that to me. It is better to have discovered a certain field is not for me, because it pushes me towards discovering what will bring the most satisfaction in my life. Whatever it is, I can remain confident that God will provide because He always has. So, my encouragement to y’all is to question what truly brings you joy in life and genuinely be open-minded when it comes to your future, because your future is not definite. It should be exciting discovering what it is that you are truly passionate about and challenging yourself in ways that will encourage growth, discovery, and individuality.